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“To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow  - this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.” ―  Elizabeth Gilbert Dear Diary,  Hair maybe a small matter to some whilst to others, it is a big matter...in all manners of speaking and literally too! I belong to the latter group where not only is hair a big issue to me, it is also BIG. I am a big hair enthusiast...neigh...BIG HAIR LOVER.  There are a lot of celebrities who have had or carried very distinct hair. It is one of the reasons why they stand out. James Brown, Dolly Patton, Oprah Winfrey, Cher, Marilyn Monroe, Michael Jackson, Jennifer Aniston (famous for "the Jennifer" haircut), Grace Jones, Diana Ross, Jill Scott, Haile Berry, Elvis Presley, Tina Turner, Jan Crouch (wife to TBN founder who loved pink, big hair). The list is endless. Out of all of the above...I have always admired Oprah's and Jill Scott's hair the most.  Secretly, I wish I could pull off a Tina Turner look....one fin...

Dear Diary, For the longest time, I have  been the kind of person who deals with problems or challenges in a particular way. My style can be a bit of a put off to some people but also very effective. I hate allowing situations to get out of control even though I am certainly guilty of that a couple of times for sure. As much as I can, I am not the kind of person who allows a situation to fester and prolong if I can help it. I also learnt from my former boss that there is always a way out of a situation if you address it in the right way. So when faced with a difficult issue, my approach is:_ 1. Deal with it immediately before it escalates or mutates into something else 2. Find a solution  3. Do whatever it takes to get to number 2 One particular example I will never forget was when my boss had applied for a particular executive programme and her application was rejected on no grounds at all. Instead of taking it lying down, she had appealed the decis...

Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope. Maya Angelou Dear Diary, I never had an idea of what I was missing until I was in a relationship where I was loved the way I had always desired. I could be fully myself without a care in the world. And I full reveled in this new season. I drank and soaked it all in, fully basking in its warm sunlight. I had always read novels or watched those romantic comedies that just seemed to end perfectly. And like any other lady, I had always wanted to have that kind of love...you know like the Notebook kind that just leaves your heart yearning and pining for such a love. One of my favourite novels is Jane Eyre and towards the end, her love Edward Rochester utter these words "I shall never tire of your custom" . To me, these were the most romantic words ever and I had finally met the person whose custom I would never tire of. I say this in the most sin...

  “I waited for the  seasons of love  to pass from this cold winter to the summer heat I dreamed of.”  ― Shannon L. Dear Diary, How could I say no? The coy offer for a date  from this nice gentleman that I had always known was graciously accepted. If for nothing else, I was curious to see him again after so long. After all, having company was always exciting even though I still enjoyed my own. I frequently enjoyed watching a movie alone (and still do were it not for Covid-19) and so I was not afraid of my own company. In fact, I greatly treasured those moments as it always gave me time to reflect and re-energize. It would be nice to have such a pleasant companion on this lone date I had boldly announced, as you will recall, a part of me was fond of the gentleman already though from a friendly distance. Our first date was wonderful even though it was a bit awkward as would be expected. We hadn’t seen each other for about 8 years or m...

“It's a bizarre but wonderful feeling, to arrive dead center of a target you didn't even know you were aiming for.” ―  Lois McMaster Bujold Dear Diary,  A single Facebook post one evening brought him back into my life with a bang. It was completely unexpected and delightfully welcome.  I first met my now husband in 2004 at the audit and consulting firm where I was working. He was introduced to me along with other key service providers for the subsidiary I worked for. At the time, he was a Regional Sales Manager at one of the big hotel chains and was the organization's Key Account Manager. We worked a lot with this particular chain...you could almost say we literally lived there as aside from staff events, we would hold client training sessions there as well almost on a weekly basis. So we interacted with him a lot.  My first impression of him was that he was a jovial, outgoing, detail oriented, well-mannered gentleman who was very keen...